Saying I love you is easy, but what about in a fight? In a marriage it is so easy to have the “crazy cycle” in Doctor Emersons words. It is when you feel unloved by your husband, and by retaliating you act out to make him feel disrespected. This will cause the crazy cycle, but when we feel unloved we should love anyway. That goes toward anyone not just your spouse. That is called unconditional love.
Love is not selfish, nor self seeking, we should not love just to receive anything in return. God loved us so much that, he came down in flesh and died for you and I, not wanting anything in return. We need to learn to love with no expectation. To me, love is very similar to trust. We tend to only love the things we trust.
When life doesn't add up we think God’s love doesn't add up in our life. There is great power that comes with trusting in God, and the same with his love for us. It can move the very moutains blocking our view, or stop the waves in our storm. Romans 8:37 states, “no, in all things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us..” The scripture right before says, “As it is written: For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughter.” Paul is addressing the church in roman, that we are not sheep, we are to be more than conquerors. That statement stands the same today. No death nor life, or depth, or anything in creation that will separate us from his love. If nothing can ever break that bond with us and the father, then no matter what is going on my trust shall forever be with him.
Another word for unconditional love for us is called, Grace. It is something that we are all in need of daily, but yet it is so undeserved. No matter what we have done to not deserve grace, God still gives it to us. We need to let this grace we get be a reason to show unconditional love to those around us, no matter what they have done to us. My feelings may waiver, but Gods love and grace will never.
This worlds love is shallow and very much conditional, it is based off the lust of our flesh, money, etc. Even charities are only given to be tax-write-off, or for public image. This love is conditioned to ones acceptance. They can never understand this depth of love. Let's start today, lets not love people because who they are, but let's LOVE people because of who we are!